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Funeral Etiquette

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I am going to a memorial service. What should I wear?

Traditionally, funeral attire has been quite somber and formal.  Women wore black dresses and men wore dark colored suits, white shirts and a tie.  And just as society became less formal, so did funeral attire.  Dresses gave way to pants suits and suits and ties became sports coats and khakis.  Now, it is common to see both men and women in blue jeans and a nice shirt or sweater. 

Some families request that those coming to a visitation or service dress in a certain way.  If this is the case, of course you should join in.  For example, the Red Hatters show their pride in bright crimson outfits.  Harley-Davidson enthusiasts dress in black, orange or their biking leathers.  Sports enthusiasts wear their team colors (you can never have enough green and gold in Green Bay).  These tributes truly make the visitation a celebration of the life our loved one lived. 

Remember, honoring your loved one and supporting the family is the most important thing you can do.  Wear what you are comfortable wearing.  Your presence is more important to the family than what you are wearing!